

Women in El Salvador
Whenever I write about women’s rights issues, there’s always some blowback from someone in the “manosphere” about how First-World feminists should shut up about their cushy lives and address the problems of women in Muslim nations and developing countries. And they do have a point. We should care about those women. We should care about ALL women. Fighting for equal pay and respect in the First World doesn’t preclude caring about and working to effect change elsewhere. But I


Sexual Assault Awareness Month: The Monument Quilt
Last April, for Sexual Assault Awareness Month, I posted a review of my memoir left by an Amazon customer named Katrina. Her commentary hit the mark, and I feel compelled to quote it again: “Anyone who has been the target of sexual or physical predation will know that, too often, the victim's voice is the first casualty of the abuser's relentless campaign of emotional manipulation, threats, and gas-lighting.” Anyone who has been the victim of sexual abuse or assault knows the


Small Gestures of Big Love
The best surprises of my marriage have been the unexpected little things that make me fall more deeply in love with my husband. By “little things” I mean small gestures of big love. I could list all these events, but that would embarrass him and me—and there are secrets that no one outside a marriage should know. The important thing is that I could list them all for you. I’m hardwired to remember distinctively the events that impact me emotionally. Since my marriage is the